Surrogate mom has 3 sets of twins in the past 4 years
Kirsten Langhammer has given birth to three sets of twins in the past four years. Not one of those babies is her own.
With each pair of twins, Langhammer fulfilled the dreams of a couple wanting to become parents. She loved becoming a mom and being pregnant — even labor and delivery. Using her self-described “magical uterus” to help create three other families has meant navigating a morass of legal, ethical and health issues.
A Google search led Langhammer, of O’Fallon, Mo., down a path of flying across the country to fertility clinics, being nurtured by intended parents and making life-changing decisions on an examining table.
Her resilient and productive uterus was in demand. And she found a purpose in sharing it.
Gestational surrogacy is a practice made famous by Hollywood couples. Increasingly, it’s also an avenue for gay couples who want some genetic link to their offspring.
There are limited data available on the number of surrogate births because agencies are not required to report them. Voluntary data collected by the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology shows a dramatic increase. There were 2,236 babies born using a gestational surrogate in 2014, up from 738 in 2004. Surrogacy is one of the most expensive infertility options, ranging from about $120,000 to far more for complicated cases, for a full-service agency and egg donor. Gestational surrogates carry embryos genetically unrelated to them. In all three cases, Langhammer was implanted with donor eggs.
It’s still a controversial practice. It’s illegal in five states to pay a woman to be a surrogate. Laws vary by state. Commercial surrogacy is also illegal in many countries, such as Canada and the United Kingdom, while other countries ban the practice completely, even in unpaid circumstances.
WHAT MOTIVATES A SURROGATE?Langhammer, 40, had easy pregnancies and loved the deliveries of her own children Jacob, 8, and Ava, 5. She went back to work as a bartender in a country club when Ava was about 2 months old. She and her husband, Jeff, felt their family was complete.
She told a co-worker that she missed being pregnant. He suggested surrogacy. Langhammer didn’t know anything about it, so she did a Google search, read the reviews of the first agency that popped up and applied online.
Circle Surrogacy receives 1,200 to 1,300 online applications a month. Less than 2 percent of women make it through the intensive screening, according to John Weltman, the founder and president.
“I think it’s a really great thing to do for someone who can’t have children,” he said.
Kirsten Langhammer’s brother and his wife had been unable to have children.
“It was close to home for us,” she said. Though she was not a surrogate for them, she wanted to be for others. She made it through all the medical and psychological screening and legal hurdles. For the first pregnancy, she would be compensated $28,000, in addition to expenses and benefits.
“If I was doing it for the money, I would charge a hell of a lot more than $28,000,” she says.
The agency sent her a profile of a couple whose responses matched hers.
She felt a connection to them right away.
For Gabriel Manzon of New York, the hardest thing about coming out as gay was accepting the idea that he would not be able to have his own family.
“It was really upsetting and sad for me.”
He and his husband have been together 14 years. Five years ago, they decided to look for a surrogate. Because the practice is illegal in New York, they all met at a fertility clinic in Connecticut to do the embryo transfers. Langhammer was implanted when her daughter was 10 months old. Before that, she had to give herself injections and hormones for weeks to sync her cycle with that of the egg donor.
Manzon and his husband flew to Missouri for the first ultrasound. They heard two heartbeats.
“One of them cried,” Langhammer said. She carried the babies to full term but suffered terrible migraines and went on modified bed rest, which she never had while pregnant with her own children.
The first baby was born vaginally, but the second baby’s heartbeat started to drop. The doctors performed an emergency C-section. Langhammer was relieved when the babies’ fathers took over after the delivery.
“The last thing I wanted to do was to take care of a baby,” she said. “I’m just an oven,” she joked. “These aren’t my babies.” The emotional part for her was watching the two men who had grown to become her close friends become fathers.
Their daughters turn 4 this week.
“I personally feel very fortunate, blessed and grateful to have a human being who would give up nine months of her own life to give birth for another family,” Manzon said.
The girls have asked about their mommy and how they were born.
“We explained that we borrowed a belly,” Manzon said. The girls have met Langhammer and know they grew inside of her.
“Can we donate Ava, too?” Jacob asked of his sister.
“No, we have to keep her,” his mom said.
“We were beyond impressed” when they met Langhammer, Lewis said. The doctor implanted two embryos. Lewis remembers the phone call when she called them to say it was twins.
“Your face goes blank,” he said. “You start crying. You’ve been waiting so long.” They flew to Missouri for the birth, a scheduled C-section.
“We both got to cut an umbilical cord,” he said. A son and a daughter were handed to them, while they sobbed.
Langhammer, who had worked 12- to 14-hour days at the bar through most of this pregnancy, knew how much this moment meant to them. Like the first couple, they’ve stayed in close touch with the Langhammers. Their expenses totaled more than $200,000, including the prior attempts.
Langhammer was again paid $28,000.
When she was on the medical table waiting for the doctor to transplant the embryo, he broke the news to her. Of the eggs that had been fertilized, only two were implantable. And neither of those looked good.
Langhammer wanted to cry. She wasn’t prepared for the possibility of twins again. In that moment, she imagined how this couple, who asked not to use their names, must have felt and how slim their chances had become.
“Was I really going to say no?” she said. She agreed to transplanting both eggs.
“I knew as soon as they went in, I’m having twins,” she said.
Ten days later, she got the results of her blood test. Her hormone levels were more than triple a single pregnancy.
“Apparently, my uterus is magical,” Langhammer said.
She gave birth, again by a C-section, to the last set of twins in January.
HEALTH RISKSDr. John Rinehart, founding partner of Reproductive Medicine Institute in Chicago, advocates for single-embryo transfers as often as possible.
The maternal death rate is three times as high when a woman is carrying twins, according to research published this month in Obstetrics and Gynecology, he said. Death is “ a very rare event,” about 14 in 100,000.
Repeated C-sections carry an increased risk of complications for the mother — rupture, bleeding, scarring.
After her third C-section, after she had given birth to eight children in eight years, her obstetrician, Dr. Jeffrey Mormol, told her there’s always a risk going forward.
Her husband shook his head.
“I’m 99.9 percent sure I’m done,” she said.
“Oh, I’m 100 percent sure,” he replied. He says his wife has done her part helping other families.
“I’m worried about her, and I need her in my life,” he said.
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