Women, Infertility and the Society....
Barely a year after getting married, nosey friends and family members were already wondering why she wasn't pregnant yet. Are you eating vegetables? Are you having sex during ovulation? You have gained weight, are you expecting? Questions came from every corner and no one seemed to care if the questions were inappropriate or not.
The final straw was when Bayo's mum came to visit them from the village and brought along a young girl for her son....She claimed the girl was from a good home and would be able to conceive quickly. After all, she was growing older and wanted to see her grandchildren before she died.. she said....
Nike was hurt and disappointed!!! Not only was she not aware that Bayo had impregnated anyone in the past, but now Bayo was starting to sound more like his mother. What happened to marriage being for better for worse?? Was the inability to conceive enough to counter all the marriage vows??
The truth is that in Nigerian society, most people assume if a couple is having delay with conception, it must be a problem with the woman...People conclude she must have had lots of abortions or contracted infections in the past which affected her reproductive organs!!!
Strangely enough, women are usually the culprit in harassing other women about delays in conceiving. The ones responsible for mean comments are usually women and hardly is it a man. And if an investigation is done, you will find that the same woman who makes the mean comments also had difficulty or delay in conceiving..It is almost like women want to ensure other women go through the same difficult experience they had....!!!