WOMEN; our own worst enemies......


Ever since I was a little kid, I have found it easier to be friends with the opposite sex...At first, I thought perhaps I was attracted to the fact that boys were different and Being the Tomboy that I was, I could climb trees and I could really play rough with Boys...,However, over time I realized it was more than them being cool playmates.....

Granted, experience has thought me that not all men are nice (Especially excluded from this group are men you have a sexual relationship with) but in general, MEN are much nicer than WOMEN!!!! Even amongst men, the relationship between men is different to the one amongst women ...There just seems to be so much competition and hatred amongst women...It is like Someone told us all that you have be better than the next one....

This issue crosses many levels...Even in the workplace, women bosses are usually hard to work with...In College, women professors could be really tough and difficult....Between friends, women could really be competitive...
( I am aware that not all WOMEN fall into this category and many are lovely...including Myself😊!)

I remember clearly when I went through my traumatic experience with my heterotopic pregnancy (ectopic pregnancy and regular pregnancy: I ended up have a C section to take out the foetus and also stop the internal bleeding).....(Link)

I got a lot of support from my DH, family and friends but I got some very mean and hurtful treatments from some women....In many cases, these women knew better, some had experienced miscarriages or child loss and therefore knew the pain...Yet they proceeded to be mean....Some made comments implying that I had been negligent and the situation was somehow my fault.....Others made it seem like I was less of a woman for having the loss...Others indicated I had to get over the issue quickly and start trying for a baby immediately...While some thought it was okay to spread the news of my loss to everyone that cared to listen.....

I was left confused as to why people will act this way...Even before my surgery, I would empathize with anyone who had a traumatic or painful experience...After my surgery, i now have a new sense of appreciation for all the strong women in the world who have experienced loss or gone through difficult situations.....!!!

On the flip side, every man that was aware of my situation went above and beyond to be nice and sensitive to my feelings.....

I have never understood this and I could never see myself happy at anyone's pain or loss...

Why do some women enjoy other women's pain? Why not spend time encouraging other women and instead want to pull them down?
I am familiar with the saying "Misery loves Company" but wow some women take the Trophy on being mean....

My experience has shown me to always be kind to everyone I meet and to be especially kind to those in pain....I refuse to drag other women down and I insist on showing LOVE....

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